Thursday, June 30, 2016

4th of July Pet Care


I don't know if I have mentioned that I volunteer with an animal rescue. A couple of weeks ago the girls and  I were able to transport 13 cuties from the vet back to rescue shelter. They were all on to their new homes later that week. We wanted to keep Chilly the Great Pyrenees/lab mix, but the zoo at my house is full so we gave him extra loves before we left. Tomorrow, I am transporting 2 more.

Its a long term goal of mine to have my own rescue.  We have been under an almost constant Euth Alert here for cats. Kitten season was rough. I want to take them all home so they don't have to die.

Which brings me to some advice I want to give you. July 5 or the day after your local fire works is one of the busiest days for shelters. Animals get scared at the loud noise and try to get away. Even if your pet is in a fence if they can jump it or squeeze out they will. If the animal is inside make sure the windows are shut so they won't break the screen and get out. Also, make sure they have a collar with your contact info. A microchip would be best. If you are absolutely dying to take your dog to the 4th of July festivities at least put them in a harness. Collar and leashes are easy to slip when the animal is really frightened. If you live near me and don't have a harness just let me know. My boys have a few sets each and I will happily give you one.

I really don't want scared, lost babies roaming the streets. Who knows what would happen to them. Best case, they can get back to you worst case they end up terrified on their own.


Friday, June 24, 2016

Summer Goals


I function better with goals. It goes back to I need structure and accountability. Its been ages since I sat down and wrote goals for myself. I know I am rusty so I need to set realistic goals that I can actually accomplish. Before Summer is over on September 21 I hope to have completed
 all of these. Fun fact My moms birthday is September 21 and my sisters is September 22.

1. Blog more. I'm not going to set a total, but anything is better than the one day a week I have been blogging. I have things to say, its just getting the time/motivation to say it.

2. Read/Comment more. I miss my blogging friends. I try to binge read so if you get a million comments from me in a day, I'm just trying to catch up.

3. Finish building a fence. So right now I only have a fence on one side of my yard. I have to take the dogs out to pee on a leash or they use puppy pads.With the addition of Hannah and her dog Princess Leia I need to get the fence done. These babies need to run. I haven't had a puppy in the house in forever. I forgot how much like babies they are.

4. Walk. I am setting the goal of 60 miles. I am hoping that doesn't leave me walking 60 miles in one week to accomplish it.

5. Set a budget I am not good at this. Actually I am ok at setting it and then I fall off the wagon.

So that's the goals. I'll post an update Sometime after the 21. Ideally it would be September 22, but realistically by October 1. 

Tuesday, June 21, 2016

Dating Site Update

I like rules. I thrive on routine .These couple of weeks that I've been using G2G has been interesting. I quickly learned there are no rules, no etiquette when dealing with dating sites. So I had to make my own.

First I decided what I wanted. Someone to talk to and maybe go out with occasionally. 

So that means ignoring the messages that start out like:
How You Doin'
Can I take you out for Drinks (especially if they are hundreds of miles away. Ummm yeah lets go out tonight....can travel three states within a few hours?
You look Purdy


However the guys that start the conversation by commenting on something in my profile will receive an email from me.

I'm currently talking to 3 guys. Two are kinda far away but they seem cool and one is a couple hours away, but in a location I travel often for work. So it makes it easy.

I haven't decided if I am keeping it up after the month is up. But so far it has been interesting.

Tuesday, June 14, 2016

More Love Less Hate

I have debated all day about what to say about this. As the mom of a lesbian I feel real fear sending her out into the world. The night club shooting in Orlando makes me realize that my fear is grounded. Listening to the family of the victims speak, makes me think of Abbey and her friends. No one should be murdered for who they are. This isn't just the LGBTQ community I am talking about NO ONE should be murdered for who they are. Last year Abbey and some of her friends started a club at school, its like a Gay/Straight Alliance. They have a teacher sponsor and went through the proper channels to get it started. Out of their own pockets they had flyers printed up announcing the club. The flyers were hung around the school. By the next morning someone (presumably students) had torn down the flyers and thrown them in the trash. The school did nothing even though several members of the group saw some kids doing it. I know that's not murder but it is allowing hate to play out. Whose to say these hateful actions don't progress to violence?
You may remember last summer when the Kim Davis fiasco was going on. Churches rented buses to come picket our town, because gays are evil and God hates gays and apparently also Muslim extremist. 

Then my mother posted this meme. I didn't comment directly to her fb. I sent her a private message. The conversation we had made me lose what faith in my family that I had (exclusion is my sister of course) 
 
My issue with this meme is not that someone wanting to murder someone, needs a gun. I know that you can kill someone with a spoon if you wanted to badly enough. Its the Godless society. Its that last month all you heard about was how transgender people were going to rape and kill us in the bathrooms. Because they are godless heathens. It was bound to happen. You scream at the top of your lungs how awful a group of people are and how we must fear them, then a bunch of them get murdered. WTF did you expect? On a side rant. WTF Brock Turner a straight white man raped someone and got a slap on the wrist. Because its always the victims fault in some way.  That's a rant for another day. 


Then a friend of mine posted this one. 
People the problem is not a godless society. The problem is there are too many godly people preaching hate. There is a presidential candidate preaching hate, people backing him specifically because of the hate and feeding on the fear. We don't need more prayer in schools we need mental health care that is easily accessible. We need leaders who stand up and say God doesn't hate anyone. So love your neighbors already. I know many pastors and church members who do just this and it warms by cold little heart to see them stand up and lead in a loving and compassionate way. We need more of that.

Every parent has a fear in the back of their mind about something happening to their children. It's stronger with parents of the LGBT community. I use to not fear Abbey being invited to parties or sleepovers but once she came out its always in the back of my mind. Is she safe where she is going? Is this a ploy to get her alone to hurt her because of her sexual orientation? There are 50 sets of parents mourning the loss of their children. Their are 53 sets of parents grateful their babies are alive, and helping them heal. To call this tragedy senseless is so much of an understatement I hesitate to even say that. But I don't know what to call it.

It's ok to be different. It takes absolutely nothing away from you as a person. Abbey being gay does not harm me, it doesn't affect me in any way other than I will one day gain a daughter in law instead of a son in law. Her being gay doesn't affect my next door neighbor or the people we meet at the grocery store in any way at all. Stop saying Muslims are evil. As I pointed out to my mother, my Muslim friends are absolutely horrified when shit like this happens as my Christian friends are when people spew hate in GOD'S name.  Stop hating people for things they can't change about themselves.

If you are using your religion to justify hating someone then you need a new religion. 


Tuesday, June 7, 2016

Geek 2 Geek

Thanks to Jenn's suggestion I signed up for Geek 2 Geek. I wasn't sure the level of geekiness you needed to be to join. I despise video games, Could never really get into gaming although the one time I did it, it wasn't awful. I just don't have the attention span to be able to sit and concentrate on it for hours. Adult ADD is real.

So I signed up and used this as my profile pic. I had to cut Emmy out of it. It was taken last Friday when I took the girls to a minor league baseball game.
It got a message right away, however the message was from a guy who is 68. Ummm my dad isn't even 68. So yeah that probably isn't gonna work out.

I then got a message from someone 25. Clicking on his profile he said interested in women 20-35. I am sure he noticed I am older than that. I have really gotten a laugh out of the guys that say they are interested in women 18-65 its like yeah lets cover all the bases. 

This opens up a whole new level of etiquette questions for me. If someone messages me and I am not interested do I ignore the message or say sorry you're old enough to be my dad? I have also had a few Sparks. Which is when someone clicks on my profile, or sends me a wink. I must admit I feel a little unwanted when someone clicks on the profile and then passes me by. I know I have clocked on profiles of pictures that seem insane for my own amusement. So I assume that is what they were doing as well.

There was someone who I thought had good potential. I sent him a message. So I will keep you posted on the outcome.

Monday, June 6, 2016

Dating is hard work

Dating is hard. Especially when you are a homebody that is social while at work and at school functions but afterwards really doesn't want to look at anyone, and the whole getting to know you phase is annoying. But, I go no where that the opposite sex may be and even work in a field that is 90% women.

I am left with a few choices. Letting friends set me up. The problem with that is all of my friends are like me, they know other moms, and other couples. Not many single men volunteering with the PTA or band booster.

Using Facebook to stalk people from my past that may be available. Problem with that is most guys from my past are there for very good reasons and should stay there. It  has the benefit of meeting friends of friends. But even that now makes me leery since that's how I met my ex that was basically a waste of 5 years. Plus I don't even understand the poke thing. What does it even mean to fb poke someone? Are you saying Hi I haven't talked to you in awhile or it is a flirty thing?

I have thought about signing up for a dating site. But I'm afraid of getting kidnapped and serial killed. I downloaded the plenty of fish app but haven't signed in yet. That does seem like a good way to maybe weed out some crazy.

I had a date set for last week and he canceled on the day of. At least he called me to say something came up with work (yup not believing that) he hasn't contacted me again since. So I think he just changed his mind.

How did you meet your significant other? I need ideas.