It was pretty interesting and I will be going back next week for night 2. So far nothing surprising in the financial section. We talked about the importance of having an emergency fund of at least 1000 dollars as soon as possible, then paying everything off (however we didn't get into any details on that yet) followed by saving another 3-6 months of expenses. Also how important it is to save up to buy things like cars and furniture. I can honestly say I have never financed furniture. I'm sure if you ever stop by for a visit it won't be a surprise to you. I had my last living room furniture for 10 years. I think it could have lasted another few years but Abbey dropped an iron on it while crafting and singed a hole in it, plus I was moving in with Greg (if you weren't around 2 years ago for that don't worry it didn't last long) So, I found myself needing living room furniture again. To further make my point, I don't even have flat screen TV's because I can't justify getting rid of the ones I have because they work perfectly fine.
The relationship portion started with her asking us what marriage looked like to us. We were suppose to draw a picture or just list words. I drew a very crude stick couple the guy with a stick knife. I was just being funny, neither of my husbands tried to kill me (that I know of). I wanted to leave the page blank because that is a better representation. But we had to put something. The girl beside me drew a couple in a boat going off a waterfall. A girl volunteered to share her story. She had been married three times and all three men used her kindness and left her with no money and no retirement. I hate to say but It was nice knowing I am not the only person with bad relationship luck.
The things we were suppose to take away from this was we can't change our partners but we can change ourselves. I'm not really sure if she was saying we should change ourselves to be more what they want. If that's the case I can already tell you I don't want to do that. We should make decisions as a couple deciding together not letting it slide. And that everyone wants to feel needed, cared for, and fully accepted.
We should feel safe to talk openly without fear. We should have a signal that we need a time out so we can leave the conversation until we have composure to continue. The trainer was telling us that one guy said the signal for him and his girlfriend was to flip each other off. Not sure that would calm me down, but who am I to tell someone what their signal should be.
So that was the high points of the night. I'm looking forward to next Wednesday for night 2.