Thursday, June 5, 2014

There's a whole lotta cheating going on

Would you want to know if your partner either married or dating was cheating on you? Would you do something about it if you knew?

I posted recently about my sister outing the married guy she was dating (he told  her he was single) She let his wife know and the wife didn't care. She cared that she was publicly embarrassed but not that her husband was cheating.

I learned last night that a friend of mine was cheating on another friend of mine. I want to tell her but I don't know how or if it will cause more harm that good. The guy apparently has a Craigslist ad wanting casual sex. REALLY!?! I left a FB post that said I knew a friend of my was cheating on another friend of mine through craiglist. I was hoping he would feel guilty and come clean. so far he has not.

Yes some people may say its the pot calling the kettle black but I would never have cheated had I known for sure I had been cheated on (and I was) because I would have left. My family was ruined because of cheating. If my parents had just split up a decade sooner I would probably be in a better emotional state.

This was his response when my friend asked him if he was the husband of the woman he is cheating on. Why when there is a rough patch people want to bolt instead of working on the problem?


9 comments:

  1. Cheating is the most ridiculous thing ever. I've been cheating on in the past by the past 7 guys I was with. Now I'm with someone who is like me and doesn't believe in cheating as well. You can tell or you can let it blow up on its own. It's ridiculous when you're married or even when you're with someone period. Once a cheater always a cheater. Karma's a bitch and they'll get what's coming to em. Unless you got mega proof you could send it all to the other one and just let it unfold itself. I wouldn't sell my hair dryer on craigslist let along go on it for sex. Um can you see lame and disease.

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    1. And if you're good friends with them. Telling them would be a good idea instead of something happened like with Brittney. I'd rather a good friend tell me. I just want folks to be blunt and honest with me. Heck, sometimes only the person cheating knows esp if they are good at it.

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    2. I wonder wtf he was thinking he lives in a small town. Thats like asking for someone to catch him.

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  2. In my opinion cheating is for boys, real men take responsibility for their actions, they don't as they say "be creeping" around on their woman. There are a million reasons people cheat, from emotional to physical cheating, all are wrong in my book. If this person your speaking of just wants casual s*x, then why not just be single, no point in causing the other party pain because his boy needs are being fulfilled. I personally would somehow sit both friends down separately and ask whats going on and tell the one that is cheating that you know; and the other that the guy is cheating and show your proof. I would want to know if I was in that situation, and I am just too blunt to keep it to myself really, I would honestly tell because the party being cheated on deserves so much better...and how are they going to feel if they werent ok with the cheating and then find out that you knew, they will question that friendship.

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    1. I know! you are so right and I am pretty sure he did this to her in high school too. She is so sweet and definitely deserves better

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  3. My ex husband cheated on me throughout our entire marriage. Everyone in town knew except for me. Once I found out I felt betrayed by everyone because no one told me. Everyone is different but I would have wanted to know rather than being the town fool.

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    1. Mine cheated too, I suspected and when I called him out on it, he told me I was crazy...delusional....living in a fantasy world. You name it and he said it. I found out the truth when I divorced him

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  4. I've cheated. I've been cheated on. It's a terrible thing to do and a terrible feeling when you know the one you love isn't being faithful.

    I've learned from my mistakes though, and am so happy I can trust my fiance.

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    1. I have too. I left both people I cheated on, but I really should have been an adult and just said I'm leaving now. But now I know better.

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